The Power Within Us

Sunday, September 04, 2016


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"We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses." 
Abraham Lincoln

We've all grown up envying Superman, Spiderman and the like for the superpowers they possess. How often do we think of the power within us? The power of our mind! Have you ever noticed how our thinking has an impact on our lives?  Positive thinking is our superpower and fortunately it is only a scratch away (literally and metaphorically a scratch on your head is all that you need!). Positivity is no strict science or magic – it’s simply the control of your mind by pulling in the reins when your mind wanders around negativity.

Keeping your thoughts positive does not imply that you keep your head in the sand and turn a deaf ear and a blind eye to unpleasant life events. Rather, it refers to your ability to approach those unpleasant events with an optimistic outlook. It is anticipating the best, not the worst. While practicing this, most people would tag you as 'unrealistic', and the same people tend to believe that pessimism is synonymous with realism. As baseless as this argument is, your reality is basically what you think it to be. What you think is what you create! Positive thinking is simply an attitude that helps you focus on the brighter side of things. And ultimately aids you in receiving positive results in life. The logic is simple to understand - optimistic thinking infuses energy into you - when you believe you can achieve a positive outcome, you tend to work for it and make it happen. When you start something with negativity in your head, you don't put your heart into it and therefore are bound to face failure.

It is not hard to be in good spirits when things are moving as planned, it is when hardships and serious setbacks are encountered that you have the opportunity to exhibit to yourself and the ones around you the kind of attitude that you possess. The trick is to fluidly position your mind and extract positives out of a negative event, to successfully overcome obstacles. Having a flat tyre could be frustrating but it might have saved you from being somewhere you shouldn't have been. So, maybe after all it is a blessing in disguise. 

We all have that one friend who never stops whining and even though she/he maybe nice and sweet otherwise but we like to avoid them just to keep negativity at bay. Positive and negative thinking are contagious like an act of yawn! We affect, and are deeply affected, on a conscious and subconscious level by the words, thoughts, and feelings of the people we meet. Would you rather like to spend time with positive, bright people, or those broadcasting negativity? Moral - be a positive person if you wish to keep friends!

Falling prey to negative thinking is easy. These thoughts play out like a film that brings you immense grief. They drain you out of energy and keep you from living in the present moment. The more people give in to their negative thoughts, the more they are fed and eventually become stronger. The question is how can we stay positive? A simple and straight forward answer would be to do things that spark contentment, peace, love and happiness in you. We all know what things work the best for us - it could be reading, writing, music, playing a musical instrument, working out, or spending time with certain persons.

Meditate/Exercise/Yoga (MEY) - These activities could be highly beneficial for your mind, soul and body. Yoga has helped me tremendously in easing out work stress (thanks to my friend who recommended it). See what could work the best for you. MEY have the ability to shove stress under the rug and keep it there until you are in the right mindset to tackle it. Even if you are not looking to deal with stress, these could be highly beneficial in the long run and help you forming an optimistic outlook toward situations.

Positive People Give Out Positive Vibes - Have you ever come across strangers who give out negative or positive vibes? Your conversation with them might have been brief, but the vibes could be transmitted and received, outrageously. This is how negativity and positivity affect you - it's right there for people to notice through your facial expressions, body language and of course words. If you happen to be in a state of grief, stress, conflict etc, spending time with positive people could do wonders for you. I usually call one of my best friends for support. When we are stuck in negative spiral, reaching out to the ones who could put things into perspective could be great help.

Shift from Negativity to Positivity - For example, instead of thinking, “I can't pass a certain exam because I don't have the knowledge,” think, “I know I will face some challenges in preparing for the exam, but I will work harder to get through it.” Once negativity hits you, know that it is malignant, endeavor to replace it with a positive thought. Imagine there are two photos right before your eyes - it depends on which one you opt to look at (more or less like the blog photo above - the images of the sunny and the rainy side in your mind). Think positive, expect only desirable outcomes, and you will see your life changing drastically.

Stop Playing the Victim - You create your life; take responsibility! Know that there is always a way out.

Don't Beat Yourself Up - When we are in a tight situation, we look at ourselves as losers. Know that it’s life, you can’t expect it to be a bed of roses. Accept your defeat and laugh on! It’s easy to dwell on your mistakes; we often get stuck and can't stop feeling terrible over the past. The only thing we can do is learn from the past and move forward, smilingly and courageously.

Your Inner Dialogues and the Voices in Your Head - Your thoughts are majorly affected by the mental self-talk that you do. The little genie inside your head makes an endless stream of unspoken thoughts running inside. These thoughts could be optimistic or pessimistic. Some part of this endless monologue comes from logic and reason, while a large portion of it is formed through assumptions and misconceptions due to the lack of knowledge. If these thoughts are negative, your overall outlook on life would turn out to be pessimistic, whereas if your self-talk is mainly positive, then you'll end up having a positive outlook on life.  Let positivity flow into your memory and replace negativity when your life is going through a sticky patch. Don't fret over something you can't control!

List Things that You are Grateful for - Being grateful helps appreciate what you already have. I did a post on happiness a little while ago, and talked about 'Happiness Log' - create one if you haven't already!

Develop a Personal Mantra - Repeat your magical words every time you find yourself losing it. Come up with something strong, something powerful enough to move your thought process up and running toward positivity. 

If we learn to keep our mind in control by avoiding negativity and letting positivity takeover, we can be our own superheros !!! 

Here's to embracing the power within us and welcoming positivity into our lives!

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4 comments

  1. Thinking positive makes lot of difference in life. Things are same, but how you look at things is important. Positive attitude towards and positive thinking makes life more comfortable. It also makes your mind more relax and peaceful.

    Babar Bilal

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    1. Definitely ! But people normally don;'t get that until they try it. Positivity has an amazing effect on us overall :)

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  2. However, no output without an input! :)

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Amna's Goodreads Bookshelf

To Kill a Mockingbird
Animal Farm
Of Mice and Men
The Alchemist
Me Talk Pretty One Day
Romeo and Juliet
Lord of the Flies
The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn
The Odyssey
A Tale of Two Cities
Frankenstein
Moby-Dick; or, The Whale
Les Misérables
Eat, Pray, Love
The Poisonwood Bible
The Joy Luck Club
Middlesex
The Memory Keeper's Daughter
Lolita
Under the Tuscan Sun


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